Solomons Paradox, what is and how to reverse it.

King Solomon was famous for being wise when he had to deal with the problems of others but performed poorly with his problems; This tendency is a global truth. We tend to be great consultants to others but not so good to ourselves, but there is a simple yet complicated technique to reverse it!

Why are we insufficient when dealing with our problems?

The reason that we are so bad at dealing with our problems is our own emotions that don’t let us view the problem from a “distance” since we are directly involved in the problem, our emotions create a “loop” that makes us over-think the problem to find a solution that will be no hurtful for our emotions since we tend to think short term and not how we will be after six months from now.

How to fix this?

A technique to reverse this is to imagine that this problem is not ours but a friend of ours; write down the problem in the same way that they would describe it in plain words, in the simplest form you can write. Then try to write some advice that you would give to your friend but try to advise without personal bias, and this is the difficult and probably the most hurting part of the exercise; you might find yourself that you already know the correct actions for the problem, but those actions might be hurtful for your feelings, but remember this is the point that you have to think the following questions.

• How will Ibe in one day, month, year from now if I will solve this problem in a hurtful way (but the way I would advise a friend)
• How will Ibe in one day, month, year from now if I choose to solve the problem in a way that I would not advise a friend?

If you find that your imaginary friend would be in a better situation with the “hurtful” solution in six months or a year, then.. you know what is the correct answer to your problem as well.

I hope you liked the article and help you a bit to make better decisions.